Cutting Cords
As we move through our lives — growing, learning, evolving — we must necessarily let go of that which no longer serves us. When we let go, we create space. This space is that of potential, of possibility.
Cord cutting is a very common practice in both spiritual and secular traditions. The practice of cord cutting helps to recover energy that has been lost and to re-establish healthy energetic boundaries.
What Are Energetic Cords?
There are several types of Energetic Cords, here we will only discuss two types:
Bᴀsɪᴄ Bᴏɴᴅs: Are cords that are formed and accumulated from daily interactions with others. These can be removed/cut by a simple daily cleanse and protection with your Crystals, daily prayersand simple purification technique such as smudging with white sage smudge stick.
Eɴᴇʀɢᴇᴛɪᴄ Sᴛʀᴏɴɢʜᴏʟᴅs: These are strong bonds between two or more entities that have holds on an individual. These strongholds can be individuals, addictions, habitsand past life associations. All of these are energy.
First off let’s remember that this is an energy play aka power play. The one with the strongest Energy wins. So, it is important to raise your vibration. By raising your vibration ”lower level vibrations” can’t reach or affect your energy. There are several tools and techniques to break the bonds.
The idea behind energy cords is that there are invisible strands of energy that connect you to other people, places, and things. These cords are not on your conscious level but exist at the subconscious and unconscious levels. Despite the fact that you cannot see or feel them with the naked eye, they still have the ability to greatly affect your life.There are positive energy cords that connect individual to individual for the mutual benefit of both parties.
These cords exist in relationships between lovers, parents and children, siblings, close friends, long term co-workers, and anyone that you might feel a deep and positive connection with.
These positive energy cords may be connected at the heart space and energy will travel back and forth between the two individuals. Overall, the energy exchange is positive, loving, and supportive. There may be times where one individual needs more energy than another but overall there is a balance that exists, with the exception of parent and child relationships, where often the parent gives far more than they take with a child. Positive energy cords need to be nurtured to keep the energy flowing between two individuals.
The flip side of positive energy cords is having negative cords of attachment. These cords do not feed you positive and loving energy but rather take it away from you. When there is a negative cord, it will syphon your energy and give it to the individual on the other end of the cord.
While this sounds pretty awful, remember that all of this is happening on the subconscious and unconscious levels. This is not necessarily someone maliciously attempting to steal all of your lovely energy, but rather, it is likely a subconscious energy attachment that supports them while draining you.
Please note! Just because you cut a cord does not mean that you necessarily end the relationship. It can mean that, but it can also mean that by cutting a cord you clear the space for a brand new, healthy, positive cord to be attached. You should be sure of what your intentions are with cord cutting before you begin. Do you want to cut the cord and the person out of your life? Or, do you want to cut the current cord and allow space for a new, positive cord to be attached? When you begin this process, be clear on which outcome you desire.
There’s a simple way to cut the Cords yourself. If this doesn’t work, you can take the help of a healer.
METHOD THAT YOU CAN TRY YOURSELF:
To cut a cord, write a letter. This letter is intended to be written to the individual, but not given to the individual. It is intended to be either torn up and thrown away or burned in a fire.
In this letter, get out everything that you might be holding onto about this person. It does not have to be compassionate or kind. Be authentic! If you are angry with this person, allow that anger to flow out of you as you write this letter. This is your space to feel your emotions and release them. It is your opportunity to clear the space between you and another individual. It is not the time to monitor your behavior or judge yourself for how you think and feel about the person or the situation. The more honest you can be with yourself the more healing you’ll be able to experience.
Once you’ve written this letter, you have two options: tear it up into pieces and toss it in the trash or burn it (safely) in a fire. Energy is released through your hands and your mouth. By writing down your feelings you allow them to be released from you rather than keep them close to you (the thoughts in your head will continue to circle around energetically if there is not a space for them to be released). This will create a significant shift in your energy. It is a very powerful healing experience that you can create all on your own. Be proud of yourself for doing this kind of work. It takes serious strength and courage to take ownership of your life and your energy.
When you’re finished the cord cutting process, give yourself the time and space to rest. Often, energetic work can leave you feeling a little drained temporarily while your body readjusts. Drink some extra water and if you feel you need to, take a nap or go to bed early that evening.
Be mindful that when you cut cords with others, some interesting things can happen next:
The person reaches out to you:
This because on some level, they have felt the energy disconnect and they are trying to reconnect it (all of this is not conscious to them). When this occurs, it is a great sign that your process worked! It is also a great opportunity for you to reconnect the cord in a healthy and positive way, if you desire to do so.
The person shows up in your dream space:
This is also on the deeper levels of consciousness but when the person shows up in your dreams it can be another indication that you have successfully severed the cord. The dream may provide you additional information about them or the relationship or even a greater clarity of understanding about it.
Nothing happens:
This is also totally okay. Not everyone you cut a cord with will feel it or reach out or show up in your dreams. If nothing happens at all following your process it does not mean that it didn’t work, it simply just might mean that they were also ready to let the cord go.
As a living, breathing, human being in this great big beautiful world we live in, there are many amazing things going on around us each and every day that are just slightly beyond what our normal senses can perceive. This subtle energy is full of information and magic and energy cords are just one of the ways that subtle energy exists and affects your life.
By learning more about your own energy and how to direct it, you gain greater control over your life.